I'm honestly contemplating a happy life without my W. I never thought that I would make it to this point so soon, but I feel as though my little "epiphany" yesterday was me reaching the "acceptance" stage of my loss. I mean, heck, do I really want to have an R with someone who has turned out the way that she has?
YES!
As I mentioned before - my advice to a young person without kids is different than it would be if you'd been married a very long time or had children involved. She has been showing you who she is when the chips are down, and really, is that the person you want by your side years from now, when you get cancer or a child gets sick or you lose a job or....whatever happens?
You're doing the hard work of learning what you have to work on in yourself. You're likely to make healthier choices in future relationships.
Own your own stuff, feel free to apologize for your role in the breakdown of the marriage if you think that will give her "closure". Just don't get sucked in, stick to the high road and don't feel like you have to engage in any conversations you don't want to.
(Btw, I love the fact that you're going to a party and therefore couldn't be too available. Make sure you're dressed to kill too )
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