SSM this is it. You DO say conflicting things. One day a sexless m is not okay with you and the next day, you say there's more to m than sex.
I can see that you could INTERPRET what I've said to be contradictory. It seems to be hard for many people to believe that I could thoroughly enjoy other aspects of my marriage even though there is no sex. So I repeat again, I am happy with my marriage, but I'm not happy about the lack of sex. Apparently, this is hard for others to understand, judging by the feedback along the lines that they'd be out of the marriage if there was no sex, love or no love. OK, I get that, but I'm me, not you.
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But If he CHOSE not to ml to me, that'd be another matter.
You're adressing another strawman here. If my wife were otherwise OK with sex and liked sex, and then CHOSE not to have sex with me, yes, I'd agree with you. But that's not the problem. She has serious problems with having sex, and she has worked on it and hasn't been able to deal with it fully. Would you want your husband to ml with you if he hated it (the sex, not you), even though he was physically capable?
