I'm sorry you feel tortured WAW. Those are alot of hard things to hear.
She has given you plenty of "cheese" hasn't she. It would be so easy to just jump on that hamsterwheel and go to town.
Try not to stay off of it as much as possible. She has a bunch of thoughts going through her head.. and she felt comfortable to share that with you.
My w did that too.
Don't make my mistake of attaching hope and expectation to those words. Or attaching the "why's" to some of her actions.
Don't over think your conversation WAW.
As for your friends.. yeah mine says that too. It may be true, but the truth is I don't know, they don't know... and sometimes I even think my w doesn't even know.
So what good does it do to think the worst of her? Now if that is what she is showing you - that is another thing.
Remember - Believe none of what your w says and 50% of what she does.
I mentioned something on IS thread that bares repeating. If you keep working on you and she notices..eventually the reasons she left you turn into excuses for not dealing with herself. Otherwise why leave you? She will either come up with new reasons or dig deep inwards for the answer.
Until the 2nd happens, she most likely won't move towards you.
Keep working on you. Look for any valid points she may brought up in the conversation and see if you want to tackle them.
Keep on..keeping on.
((( )))
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
