end it in a way you won't have any regrets about. I recall seeing my ex fiancee to give something back to him and he still held onto the idea that we'd reconcile after he sowed a few more wild oats or something....
I looked my absolute best, as in , I spent money on it. And I kicked ass with attitude about how busy I was and didnt' have a lot of time to talk but...mentioned a really funny experience we'd had and then he brought up one and I did too and he brought up romantic experiences and I let them sink in him for a minute and then in a really loving but not pursuing way, I hugged him "goodbye"....
it could not have gone better from my tiny 20 y/o brain.
And it did haunt him, which was my goal then. Today my goal would be to give them 2nd thoughts if I held on to recon ideas...
but I if I truly wanted it over, I'd do most of the same things-
B/c my ego would still want to feel good about how I left things.
anything punitive backfires as far as that is concerned. I never understood the idea that if you slam someone financially and legally and punish them for betraying you
while YOU may benefit financially (and if that's the only goal, I get it) but if your other
goal is somehow getting them to regret it, it does NOT work.
The WAS sees the punitive actions for what they are; and then totally validates their choice to leave b/c now the LBSer is an SOB or a beyotch... AND it totally eliminates chances for a recon too... make sense?
Don't do/say something that will give you any regrets.
Be seen in the best light possible and let that comfort you b/c it really will.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
