I need some 2x4s friends... Since last weekends drama, H and I were getting along better, had some plans, etc. I made the mistake of sort of bringing up the R- not directly, but it still had the same effect. Things blew up, he said he was done and we were just waiting until after the holidays to proceed. Ugly.
I told him that maybe we should just figure out what the schedule would be for the next couple of weeks, and take a break from each other. There are lots of things coming up we had planned and I just wanted to make a plan, and go dim.
Keep in mind, for the entire time we have been separated H has only requested to have D TWICE. Both times were when he was mad, and he knew I already had plans with her. Its almost like he was trying to get me to say 'no' so he had ammunition. We have done many things together, he has had some afternoons/days alone with her too, but those we at my prompting.
Generally speaking, he comes to see D at her soccer games weekly, and then whatever we have come up with on the weekend. More often that not, he doesn't see her but maybe once/twice a week. This is NOT by my choosing, although that's what he always says is that I don't allow him to spend time with her. If he doesn't ask, I don't think its my responsibility to pursue it, is it?
Soooo, I suggested he take her one day during the week, and one weekend day so he's seeing her on a more regular basis. He FREAKED out, said he was going to destroy me and he would seek either 50/50 or full custody. I am terrified, quite frankly, and I don't understand the wrath considering I was suggesting MORE time with her than he currently spends!
I just don't get it. I am scared, and I don't know what to do at all with this. Things are not better at this point, but they have calmed down in that we are going to **try** and wait until the first of the year to proceed.
