It is good to reflect on the past and I'll just tie this into the above post on feedback and living in the here and now... the past IS feedback... and in this moment, you are choosing to reflect... and that... is good...
It's the processing that is getting you stuck...
This is where many people (not just LBSs but people in general) get stuck... they second guess what they did... the changes they made... the belief systems they are currently living with... in some circles, we call that "Harry"... a creature (perhaps a worm) living in our minds... constantly telling us about our failures and our inabilities and reminding us of our fears and our losses...
We can't kill Harry... we just need to know that Harry exists and is... speaking to us... and we can choose Harry's feedback and it's validity and act accordingly... just like we can with other people...
Harry... is YOU... and Harry is ALWAYS harsh... and Harry is always selfish... because Harry likes when we don't change... Harry doesn't like change...
So that's just another way of saying, the LBS must do the work on themselves... and that's called a course correction... we have neither failed nor succeeded in our past... the past is simply feedback and we course correct...
Again, very abstract stuff, but again... I hope that helps you to choose how you proceed... with YOU as the focus and your betterment as the goal and no matter how much better you are, everything else will simply be as it will...
and that my friend, is self fulfilling prophecy...
Many of us have heard it this way...
Be the change you wish to see in the world... because when we are better... we attract better... when we love... we get love... when we respect... we get respect...
It is all true... it is all real... even when it doesn't seem that way... if something is not right... it's because it's what we've given out... and it's being reflected back at us...
