Once we stop blaming and start owning up to our part and taking responsibility things will begin to change.

Both parties are at fault.

It's just the way one of them chose to handle it that seems to make the difference.

Do these things for yourself NOT because you want to prove anything to her.

She is living her own life now and you have to step back and stop interfering.

Focus on your children and be the best possible parent you can be without ever dissing your wife. She is still their mother.

Do the work on yourself for yourself!!!