well I am bumbing this thread back up there are lots of people on here who are at the present a little anxious about GAL and doing things on their own - and those of us who don't mind doing stuff on our own know that it is only a matter of practice
so I think that creating mystery is a little step in the direction of GALing - and focusing on creating mystery helps with anxiety and can be used as another type of thought stopping if anxious people who have lots of negative thoughts bouncing unwanted in their heads can focus on creating mystery - presto a thought stopper in action
I have more recently come across DBers who have the want but still fear the going out alone so recommend things like going to a big book store (people always go to these places alone) browsing for books (meditation books are great for helping to cope with sleep problems) buy the book and buy a coffee and begin to read many big book stores have coffee shops attached
this way you are going out alone (but in a little step) and you are doing something legitimate - and there is no need to tell the WAS what you were doing
I have also posted this link on my own thread for 'my friends' to see there are some really good ideas and I think this link does a lot more for people other than just give them ideas for creating a little mystery it helps those who just can't get up and GAL
great posting everyone threads that help lots of people need constant bumping
