Where the WAW is basically unhappy with her husband.
That depends. Most times, there is OM in the background. In all the posts I've read on DB board, there is only one couple that I remember where there was not a third parth involved.
That doesn't mean there has to be a third party in order to be classified as a WAW, but when there are small children involved....you have to ask yourself why a woman would leave the M (void of any abuse, of course) if there isn't a third party or she wants to have a third party.
The thing that bothers me about reading a LBH saying he feels better if the W is having a MLC rather than her be a WAW....is that it's not saying very much about that man, now is it? Sounds a little selfish to me. A MLC can continue for several years, and then she may not ever be quite like she used to be. OTOH, a WAW (affair or not) usually won't drag it out that long before she either walks or reconciles, one of the other.
A S in MLC can be just as cold & cruel as a WAS. So are you really saying that it would be easier to forgive if they aren't in an A? That sounds more like a fragile male ego. Come to think of it, I don't ever remember a LBW saying that she rather her H be having a MLC. Interesting.
Either way is really awful and everyone suffers. Plus, the chances of a W who is in MLC having an A, IMO, is huge.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
