alcoholic H decided he wants D

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I have a question for anyone who can answer...
I found out today that I have 3 appts with a MC of my choice in my area that is paid for by my Employee Assistance program...
My H and I have tried MC about 18 months ago right after he stopped drinking but I was not in the mind frame to participate, as a matter of fact I was pretty hostile and the MC was an idiot..she sat and read to us for the entire sessions that I went to and I finally said im done.
since My H dropped the D bomb i havent even mentioned MC but was thinking about asking him if he is willing to go. How would this effect my DBing?? Ive had no contact for 3 days and am realy proud of myself for that but the not knowing what the hell is going on is killing me. and the more I think about it the more I wonder how the hell we are supose to fix anything if we are not talking to each other at all? this whole DBing things is starting to feel counter productive, the longer he goes without his family the more he will adapt to that and will just eventually move on.
At least if we go to a counselor he will have to tell me why he suddenly wants a D...but I dont know how to approach it..he is not interested in working on or fixing our relationship he just says hes done. He may go if i convince him we could work on communication as parents...
is this a desperat act or just another idea????? help...i blew it so bad for the last month im terrified to make a move.