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[ClingingToHope]

Well Mishka, I ended up ranting to her. I stewed about it for a while and then thought that this is the kind of thing that killed the marriage. I'd hear something or she'd say or do something and I'd just stuff it inside. She would to. Then when something else went wrong or there was stress it would all just come out.

So I sent her an email saying basically she can't complain about me not paying for things when she didn't ask. She didn't ask me to chip in on dance lessons or the theater stuff.

And I reminded her that I paid thousands of dollars in interest on credit cards that were 100 percent her debt, but she was able to walk away from, as well as all of the final legal expenses.

I haven't checked that email address to see if she responded. But I'm not going to let these things go anymore.

Today was a banner day. D9 just gets worse and worse. Today, school called and said she's been out of control for two hours and I need to pick her up.

I got there and she was happy because she was getting what she wanted -- to go home. Then I remind her that XW decided that if got to the point where she had to leave school then there would be no electronics -- no TV, no Wii, no DS, no computer.

So then suddenly she wanted to stay at school. The principal said no. After a meltdown that long and that much effort to control her, she had to leave.

So it started all over again. I was there 90 minutes. At one point, she started saying she'd kill herself if she left school. So the school called the police and I had to talk to them and they ordered me to take her for a psych evaluation.

XW, who was at the theater with D12, met us at the hospital where we spent three hours together.

God I was a jumbled mess inside. D9 is basically holding everyone hostage. If she doesn't get her way she just keeps upping the ante until she does.

XW and I are supposed to go through this together, but I was just burning inside. I just hated her today.

D9 was fine at the hospital. They had a TV and we couldn't keep her from watching it so she was happy. It was a waste of time and money.

When we left, she knew it was time to serve her punishment so she started all over again, saying outrageously mean things to try to get me to cave. I haven't caved.

She has 24 hours with no electronics and I will keep adding hours when she is disrespectful. It's the disrespect more than anything. She has no respect for anyone.

D12 is staying with XW tonight and XW gave me a funny look when I suggested that. I said it's hard to punish D9 with D12 there because it's such a small house.

Funny, but XW doesn't seem eager to take the kids anymore than she's required to. Made me hate her even more.