1 - questions you avoid, ring bells with these very intelligent people. The idea is to look internally; everyone here has a sad story, but not everyone here sees their part in it, the ones who don't see their part, repeat patterns i.e. mistakes and start blaming the world...never themselves.
2 - very quickly, she is pushing your buttons with the OM, not sure why, but at its most basic...people (and rats) push buttons because it grants a reward. Stop giving her what she wants when she pushes your buttons.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
