An idea I had but haven't had the "right time" to try it. My W removed her ring shortly after moving out, and I removed mine (I don't know why, I quess because she did). I've not had much time to go out with friends until now. My plan is to later put my ring back on. When she notices and if she asks why, I plan to respond with something like "I'm still married, When you go out, I don't like the pressure you get from other W if they think your not married." or something like that. Still working on it. IS THIS A GOOD IDEA?
Also, took the wedding pics off the walls, she wanted to know where they went.
Quote: I removed mine (I don't know why, I quess because she did)...."I'm still married, When you go out, I don't like the pressure you get from other W if they think your not married." or something like that. Still working on it. IS THIS A GOOD IDEA?... NO Also, took the wedding pics off the walls, she wanted to know where they went.
On the ring and pictures, I know we do these things in anger, and cause we don't speak alien, we think it don't matter to them. IT DOES, so put the ring back on and put the pictures back up. NO smart alec remarks about it, just something like. "I was not thinking, these are things I value", then shut up. Prob with us guys is we thing we have explain. What you did was notice by her, but she would never say anything, cause she is an alien. Read MARS/VENUS for a more detailed explaination sp.
So far I've read numerous books to include DB several times. My W comes over so I hide them under the bed. I wonder if it's OK to leave regular relationship books on the bedside table such as Five Languages of Love and Men/Mars Women/Venus.
Would this be taken as I'm trying to learn or would it be taken negatively?
I think the only one I would leave out is the Five Love Languages. It is a simple concept to explain, and seems the least threatening - even my H read it!
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I tried to create mystery last two weeks. But my H is now angered is this a good sign?
We are seperated H is living w/ OW. Last weekend didn't answer phone he called 3x. Next AM called him he was miffed I just said we went to the movies and I forgot to put phone back on. Kids were interrogated about movie after that.
This weekend couldn't stay in house depressed. so GF said I could spend the night and to bring the kids. Well when H knew we were there he became angry. Yesterday when he called kids seemed ok I answered phone joyfully but when kids told him we did spend nite at friends. He became cold. Not sure if he doesn't believe them or what. Or thinks I went out really not sure. But what do I do NOW???
this Saturday I had planned on going to christmas party w/ GF but now I'm wondering How he will take this. Maybe I should say Hey I'm going to Co. xmas party Saturday would you like to go? Then he knows beforehand I'm going and he was invited if he doesn't want to go then that's his own fault. What do you think???
