No i definately agree, guilt would not make a m work. we were really enjoying each other company when h came back. he would say i love you with all my heart and i knew he meant it. We were spending time together something that i wanted from him more than anything, he gave me material things but i really wanted his time.
He might have came home partly because of guilt but he also realized the mistakes he made. the main reason he left the last time was because of the trust issue, he wouldn't call me once a day he thought that was a control thing like everything else i did, and i would bring ow up sometimes and that was like keeping her in our life, even though she wasnt anymore. i know i made mistakes.
I know i change my attitude towards him often on here, because sometimes i try to convince myself to let him go. ( no comments from the peanut gallery. Its like you sit there, just waiting to come out to attack).