I wish it was, too, rysmom. Sorry your story was doubted. I can feel your pain, rysmom, and it doesn't feel fake to me. I can't imagine anybody doing this for four years because they want to fool people.
The reason I said maybe to write it all down and give it to your H, was so you would have it all out there once and for all, instead of the angry outbursts every so often. But, if giving him a letter is considered the wrong thing to do, then by all means disregard what I said. Personally, I did give my H a heartfelt letter, saying how I felt, and how I had a part in our M troubles, and was willing to work on what I needed to work on.
If you feel your C is doing you good, then great, but if you feel things are stagnating there, maybe time to try someone else.
We are all here for each other, and when one of us is hurting, we all feel for them. Some of us have an approach that seems harsh, but no harm is meant.
