It does sound like u have more of a chance to use the advice in DB book...do it!!.. i wish i had and not wasted so much time trying to get my H to come back. I just pushed him farther away...no contact is the best thing...as hard as it is...stay strong!!
Me:48 H:42 M: 18 yrs. S: 9/1/09 due to alcoholic H D bomb: 9/9/11 OW confirmed 10/30/11 D papers filed 11/01/11 S15 S21(Special needs) S28
Look to yourself, It is there that all your answers are found...
