Why do I accept in someone, much less than I am committed to give myself?
It is a very good question to ask.
How do we stop that?
TG - In some ways I always have. She's been so troubled. Always struggling internally. So when she starting dropping the ball on stuff or backing away emotionally, I thought I was being loving by stepping in. Being her knight in shining armor. Letting it be "ok" how she acted or felt.
It's odd that she doesn't want me yet she still allows me to play that role.. or will get upset if I don't play it. In some ways, I don't even think she is aware of it.
How do we stop that you ask?? I don't know. I understand the concept of tough love (for a better word) and boundaries but I've never really done either.. or when I have they have been not respected or twisted into coming from a place of anger.
The sacrificing, putting her first.. I have down pat. But I have a hard time seeing boundaries as being loving.
It's something I'm working on though.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
