know sure what to make of this

[workinghardguy]

David,

I know where you're coming from... recently I've started becoming more convinced that my W is in a MLC and not just a WAW. For some reason it has made a small difference to me. In the end she's still being, at times, cold-hearted and malicious. Though, I may choose to go with self-centered and narcissistic as descriptors instead.

I really don't know why it makes a difference to me, but it has in some small part. Maybe it's because I've come to believe that it isn't about feelings for some OM; it's just her profound dissatisfaction with her life which includes our R.

At the same time I also get more anxious at times... if she was just a WAW then changing myself and thus our R could be enough. But if my W is truly so dissatisfied with her life and her actions are because the R is something she can directly control (she can't not have kids, she can't jettison her family as examples, but she can jettison me) then I don't know that changing me and our R will be enough. Because I have no ability to effect those things beyond me.

So it's a double-edged sword.