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[gunny]

hello gb,
You are right. At this point, I am looking at things the same way. M is over. S is as good as gone. I got married at 40, late in life, and until then was pretty happy with my lot in life, I was dating, meeting different women, bought a nice place to live, making good money, loving life, completely content with my lot.

I have always been very independent, travelling the world, different duty stations all over. When I met my w, I fell head over heels and the rest is history.

I know that once I get over this initial shock of losing my w, eventually I will get back to what I was before, a contented bachelor who loves to travel, date, etc. I will always have the sense of loss over my s, who I will always love. Maybe our paths will cross afain, who knows, if so, hopefully she will have worked on her issues, and I will have worked on mine. Through my support groups and IC, I have finally begun to address some of my intimacy issues and abandonment issues that were the product of growing up in an ultra dysfunctinal family. I am becoming a full person, not the half baked one that has been able to get through life on tenacity and determination alone.

TAhanks for the good thoughts, continued good luck on your sitch.
Gunny