ok... i had about 20 different responses... one of them went into a 20 page monologue...

See if you can answer this one:

What if your W tells you she does understand...?

Will you believe her...?

Will you think she means that she understands... in a way that you hope she understands...?

And in her understanding, are you hoping that she'll elaborate exactly how she understands and empathizes with your life and how you've been feeling especially that moment when... you baked those cookies... the one's with the smarty eyeballs and licorice smile... and how it felt when she lauged...???

So I ask... do you understand... that she may have a different... understanding... then you might hope for or expect...?

Or are you just wanting to ask and will happily accept a yes or no answer...? Or perhaps a blank look of... "What do you mean...? Do I understand...?"