Hi all,

This is a great thread and this all worked for me.

I did most of this stuff, some times it used to give me a little chuckle. Once I was all dressed up to kill when H bought D back then I saw him out side the house waiting to see who was picking me up lolol, it was a taxi .

Someone said that the best way to create the "Mystery" is the get a life technique, this I think is tru, however its not always possibloe to be doing stuff all the time coinciding with when your S sees you, so there is no harm in adding a little more.

I have two teenage dughters from a previous M, so they new all about my Dbing and supported me all the way. I had some rules for them to keep, that was whenever H called they were to say shes out, when he said where? they were to say" I dunno" They always followed my rule and told me of his recations. At first there was not much reactoion, however, this started to change as time went on. He gradually started asking more questions, like what time did she go?? and stuff

When H used to call me on my mobile, I always sounded in a rush, once he called m in sainsburys I think the noise in the back ground got to him.

Another time when H asked if he could come round to do garden, (This was hard!!) I said " Yeah sure that would be great, I wont be here Ill be out most the day" Then I just went out visisting.

Another time he came round in the eveining and he kind of lingured in the end I said " sorry I gotta dash" then He said " Oh sorry, didn't realise you were going out" followed me out to my car, I litturally went for a half hour drive.

This might all seem like game playing. But it works!! what the heck!!.

If they are unsure in any way about what they are doing, this will get their attention.

Sue