Let's Create Some Mystery.........

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I have seen some progress with mystery in my sitch! Maybe I should add a little more.... Actually a combination of mystery and less availability.

So far, I have found the best mystery is when I'm late or have other plans the same night as seeing H. My H is a musician and has shows a lot. So when he invites me to the show, I get there late b/c of a party I was at, or leave early to meet friends or don't go to some of the shows at all. Then if asked, I say I had other plans(something fun I'm vague about, with "friends" The vagueness helps BIG TIME)

He has been asking lately what I did the night of his show I didn't go to? Actually asked if I have a date the last time I left our visit in a rush... The last show I went to of his, he insisted that I come several times and even put me on the guest list! Warming, warming!

I honestly think the mystery works even better if you are doing something that your S would really like too, or something that your S used to do for you, that now others have taken his/her place. Once recently I was out at a bar with a bunch of guys and a few girls too that are into martial arts and showing me moves(after my martial arts class). This was one of the nights that I told H I wasn't available to meet with him. I casually mentioned to H I loved these moves some of the guys showed me. H loves marital arts and likes to show me things. He actually said then- "did you tell them your HUSBAND showed you that!" The first time he used the word "husband" in 5 MONTHS!!

So, do people think I should pump up the mystery more maybe? I love the phone call ideas on this thread, lol!