BTW, to answer the question before it gets asked... no... it doesn't change anything... not really...
So... I've been spending some time at that "other" forum... had an active thread and had some pressing questions about what the difference was between MLC and vanilla WAS...
Did I say it earlier on my threads...? No, it's not real easy to see... or at least not for me... but... I have seen enough light that I can now believe my W is MLC...
As I mentioned above, it doesn't really change anything... but it is kinda sad... in a different way as it is sad to know that someone would just abandon their spouse and their M, like a WAS...
No, sad because she is probably in turmoil, and denial, and confusion, and anger, and depression... and, and... and... she may be in the MLC tunnel for at least another 2 years... and... she may not end up being the woman I knew, when I M'd her...
I say that because, the pieces kinda just fell together...
Do I really need to label my W? Do I really need to rationalize any of this? No... am I "right"...? Not sure and I don't have to be right about this...
I never actually knew my W prior to the end of her R with D13's bio dad... That R was both physically and emotionally abusive... and now that I look at a lot of my W's behaviours, while she may have had some of these prior to that 7 year R, they are behaviours that could point at PTSD... I hope that through my W's MLC, she works through that trauma... and I hope she comes out "the other side" a strong, compassionate, courageous, loving woman...
I just have a few doubts that, at the end of the game, we are "meant" to be together... we both need to "find ourselves" and create our new lives, and those lives, aside from the kids, i quite likely is independent of each other...
That's OK... I'm good with that... I'm fine with it all...
Keep moving forward, no expectations... path paved and smooth and all that... well, aside from the ugly of separation and D... but... anyhow...
