25- so you don't think he would be willing to do the above?^^^^ Because he is not there yet? Won't ever be? Or, is just pulling to wool over my eyes? I know he isn't there yet and I agree with what you wrote. He needs the c we both do. I will not take it on. He brought up a few things"if" he were to come home and I just listened. I knew it wasn't happening that night so just let him talk.
Gosh Life, I surely don't know what your h is willing or able to do. No crystal ball here.
But so far, he's done nothing but talk.
So You tell me, do YOU think he'll inititate and implement contact with the kids on his own, stop seeing OW, and go to c?
And Do you think he'll address his drinking?
(Personally, I would add attending AA meetings to at least assess the drinking, at a minimum...but I thought his coworkers said he got drunk w/OW.
If so, That IS absolutely a problem and he's an alcoholic, but Life, I notice you avoid the issue a lot so I guess I don't see you as the type to require this, no offense)
If I had to guess, then no, I don't think he'll do the above things, or he would have by now. However, maybe the filing woke him up and he's aware of what he'll lose otherwise. Maybe it is helping him see the light.
We can hope
But don't you dare veer off course b/c filing and enforcing are what got you here, not the enabling.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
