I was DB'ing but just discovered an affair

[NTX_Dad]

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I am sorry for the late reply, I am getting crushed at work these days with new large projects.

I don't mind posting the note, but I don't have it with me right now. I have not given it to her and she's asked a couple of times this week if she'll ever get it and I told her I would think about it.

I don't think her ups and downs are a divorce tactic. I don't think she's that devious... unless it's all happening subconsciously.

It's been an interesting week so far. Sunday she texted me and offered to make us dinner Sunday night when she came over to pick up D8. She stayed 3-4 hours and we had a really nice evening.

Monday night I noticed D8 forgot something at the house, so I texted her and offered to bring it to them. She told me they were out eating and invited me to join them which I did. We hung out for an hour or so and had a fun evening.

Tuesday they went out with some friends and asked if they could stop by for a few minutes since they were in the area. They stopped by for an hour or so and watched some TV together and shared some laughs. She then propped her feet on my lap and ending up falling asleep for a while.

And then this morning she needed to drop something off at the house on the way to work, so we visited for 5-10 minutes. When she left she gave me a hug and a quick peck kiss on the lips (something we haven't done in a few weeks).

My logic tells me to put up some boundaries and resist some of this, but my gut loves her and it feels good, so I let it happen.

I can't help but think that she still has emotions for me (or us) at some level. I don't think some of this intimacy would typical for a female/male friendship.

My therapist told me earlier this week to just be careful and if it feels good, then so be it, but to also keep perspective on the fact we are going through a divorce and that my wife is confused and may not even know what she really wants.