Saving the M and caring for a baby

[KenF]

there is no such thing as certainty in a relationship, it does not exist. if certainty is your goal, its a lost cause.

trust in one's partner does not come from certainty but from acceptance of uncertainty.

at what arbitrary point would she decide she's certain? and why not decide where she is now is that point?

the end result of attempting to achieve certainty is failure of the relationship, there can be no other end.

if she keeps pushing for certainty it will end in one or more of:
a: drive him away,
b: she will find out something she cant forgive,
c: she will create a paranoia in herself that cannot be satisfied, and she'll be reduced to snooping, doubting, etc

its the same as trying to find the breaking point of a pencil. the only way you do that is by breaking it. and once its broken its broken.