W is moving out.....life goes on...

[gunny]

hello in shock,
Having been reading up on your sitch for a while now. Sorry you are going though these things. I am in somewhat similar sitch. My s is due to leave very soon, long distance sep. As much as I dread it on one hand, on the other hand I am looking forward to it because as the other posters are saying, it is almost impossible to move on to the healing and introspection and changing that we have to do while significant other is around. We are never totally comfortable. As much as I'm going to hate seeing her go, I know that it must happen if any change is to occur.

Your s has to work on her problems, you have to work on yours, and you cant do that properly while sig other is around.

This is what everyone has been telling me, my ic, friends, others on this board. Hope it helps, hang in there,
Gunny