NYC Peter - yes, that's my exBF. Just moves in kind of a vaccuum. Chops off what he doesn't want to hear. IDK - I think once he is safe and established and guilt-free, he'll feel more inclined to talk about things and be open to thinking about the future (d's future)... right now, it's as if it's too threatening. Actually, last night, I was talking about D having some trouble right now and missing me and something she did re: nursing and he got a little annoyed and walked away.
Later I was able to say to him "Please don't take that on. This is a choice I'm making to spend more time with D and maybe drop out of the program."
(It was fresh last night and he came in and asked what has been going on). I could see he thought I was trying to guilt him or suggest somehow that HE should spend more time with D (which doesn't make sense b/c he is here, and I'm the one working all the time) - so I quickly said "Please don't take that on - this is about me."
But when he was sensing a guilt trip a MAJOR WALL went up -and then he left the room!
