I understand what Beatrice is saying regarding the grieving process. I don't think that I posted that I just moved forward with my life and pretended my 20 year marriage didn't mean anything. I did grieve and I mourned the loss of what we had together. The point I was trying to make was that during my Husbands absence I focused too much on his MLC. There was so much damage done to our relationship mostly caused by his irrational behavior that instead of working on my own healing I wasted too much time trying to figure out what happened. There were children to take care of and bills were piling up. My job in life was to try and keep everything as normal as possible for them. It was a really bad period of my life and looking back I wish I had done things differently. Just because they suddenly decide they want to come home again doesn't make all the problems suddenly dissapear.
