The more I do to help this woman the more she hates me!!!!!
I went to see my solicitor yesterday, I discussed the situation with the house/finances, basically the "family home" has dropped in value since the recesssion.
If we sold it now, there about 20-30K equity, by the time that is split, fees, etc, it's not worth selling, uprooting my kids, upset, arguments, etc, so I'm giving her the house.
I will continue to pay maintainance for the kids as agreed, but I won't be giving her anything, which I currently do.
After discussing it, my solicitor agrees its a practical and clean way forward, and allows me to move on with my life. The money I currently give her, if I bank it, will within a year or so, be worth more than the equity I would be due. He advised me to do the deal ASAP.
So I agree and we get things in motion, as this is an agreed solution, there is no need for court hearings, etc, so that saves me around 2K also!!!!
I called my wife to let her know, she is pleased and happy that it is settled. She asked me how I felt, I said I was releaved it was sorted, but a little sad that it has come to this, she agreed.
A little later she calls me again on her break, asking me more details about what was said, etc She then asked if I was paying this months payment to her, I said I expect all the paperwork will be sorted before I give her any money, so no? She then said I could still give her something if I wanted to????
I explained I had just signed over the house to her, this is what she wanted, and now she wants more!!! She then said that it was fine and she will sort it out.
The question is, I know how much she earns, and she is really going to struggle here.But that is a lesson she has to learn alone.
I have contacted her since regarding the kids, but I can tell she is in a mood, but why??, she should be happy!!!
I got my son last night for football, and when he got in the car, he said that mum had said that dad had signed the house to her, he seemed pleased, she had spun a line that I wanted to sell it???, I explained to him that I had given mum the house so that the 3 of them knew where they lived and to stop anymore arguments, he just smiled.
So she has everything she wanted, she has told the kids, so I don't think she is lying and will sell it to make a quick buck!!, at least I hope not!!, the divorce is to be settled, my solicitor made me smile when he said that marriage is just a word!!, my thinking entirely!!!, but she is still not happy??, or at least not happy with me!!
So I can now look forward to the future properly!! I have my kids, and we get on great. I have no connection with my wife other than the kids I have no big mortgage to worry about, but I also don't "own" a home, but I never did, the banks did really!!
I'm renting a place that I'm settled in, I can start setting myself up financially for the future, I can look forward to the rest of my life, ne hopes and challenges, its all exciting!!, but why do I still want the woman who has cheated and lied to me back in my life???
I know I'm far from done with her.
There are a lot more twists and dips along the way.
I just love this woman so much, and I know she loves me Don't know the future, but its going to be eventfull!!!
