Folks...the note is on my night stand again tonight. Realizing I need to confront the reality of likely separation, I still need some help in answering the questions about who should move and about the kids...feeling desparate. Thx for any and all opinions.
if she's a sahm then she's the primary caregiver for the kids?
then Assuming someone is going to move out (not saying someone should) but IF
then I'd guess the court won't make her AND the kids leave....which means you.
OR you both learn to live together under one roof pending the divorce. Both are unappealing scenarios.
But don't gloss over the effect of the EA of 3 years ago since she says that "for a short while" things improved after that...then went bad. Not a coincidence.
To me that means at best the complacency returned to you when she still needed more reassurance and motivation...or worse, her hurt, resentment and fears were not allayed by you and that is a corrosive trend.
In any event, she only recalls improvement then for "a short while" and not many marriages can handled an affair with "short term" efforts at rebuilding.
Plus, I'm not sure what YOU mean by EA. A woman might say "EA" to mean a bit of a crush but a man might mean everything but intercourse.
And if your w thought you loved the OW...ouch.
Don't mean to hit you with a 2 x 4 but you seem to want directness. Good luck
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
