I just continue to wonder if separation really breeds separation or if in this sitch we actually need it -- for her to really spend time with (not just the incessant texting of a 13 year old and the occasional hours on the weekend) with OW and really see what she's like. Move past some of the infatuation and see reality. Meanwhile I can begin to heal. I'm just RAW so much of the time when W is home.
IS, I really think it cuts both ways. On one hand, you do have that risk of separation breeding separation. It also limits the time you can DB. Worst of all, it limits the time you have with your S. OTOH, it gets you away from the drama. You have a lot less pressure. You don't feel like you're on stage all the time trying to DB. It can give your W a taste of reality. She can really get a chance to miss you.
I suggest not forcing it, but if it happens, play the hand you're dealt. You can even act "as if" it's going to help the situation. She doesn't need your permission to move out.
I'm so sorry you're having some rough days right now. ((()))
