Keep doing what you're doing but out of curiosity, have you ever expressed to your W your feelings in your 3rd paragraph there?
Are you asking about the paragraph about me being controlling? If so, she actually brought that up awhile back. TBH at first I didn't get it. She told me she didn't want to be controlling in one sentence and then that she wanted me to be more of a man in another. After a few years I finally started to get it. Actually what I meant by that paragraph, too, is that I assumed she didn't consider D an option either. I think those were some times I did some damage.
Are you asking about the paragraph about me being controlling? 
