You will never know what could happen until you try. He may say no, but what if he says yes? Baby steps, you know. Ask for one little thing from him at a time. Like going to look at cars together. We are all afraid of rejection, but never to try to connect with someone is worse than that. That's why most of us are here, to try to reconnect with our spouse who has rejected us. I had my pride and fear to overcome.
What kind of evil and dark stuff do you think he has gotten into? Heavy metal music isn't all bad. Beards and tattoos aren't bad. Do you think Jesus was clean shaven? Can you accept your H back with a beard and tattoos? Can you tolerate his music? Or would you turn on him because you think he is doing evil? Have you ever read 1Corinthians 7:14? I feel it is a very important verse. Important for those of us who think because we are "religious" we are somehow above our spouses. It is our example of our religion that they see, and if they see us as self-righteous, they want to run the other way. I never threw up how religious I was to my H, during his MLC, and you know what? He never stopped going to church with us, and still goes. I like to think he saw a biblical example of a Christian woman in me, rather than one who wanted to show him how bad HE was, even when he and ow were telling themselves they thought God wanted them to be together.
I need to follow your example and get our house ready for the winter. I need to get some weatherstripping done. And doing something with the steps. What does coating your driveway do?
Now, I get it about your schooling. Is your S good in Algebra? Let him help you with it. Kids can be good teachers. vc
