Do not move out!

Do not let her take YOUR children.

If she wants to move she can.

Stay in the MBR and make her move out.

You can give her space and be in LRT and still sleep in the same bed.

Stop having expectations, your post is filled with them.

If you leave you will be abandoning your family.
Let that be on her, not on YOU.
You did not break her and you can not FIX her.

Continue to detach and be the BEST DAD that you know how to be.

Someone should come along and post the 37 rules for you.

Me-70, D37,S36