W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Well, my W emailed me today to tell me that next weekend she is going to San Francisco with my son to meet a visit a married friend that fortunately I know and have a good opinion of. I'm not wild about the fact she is driving there from where we live but I didn't intervene and told her to drive safe and let me know they get there (just so I know they got there safe). I think that is very reasonable considering how far away it is.

I ask about her mom and it took her 2 emails later to say anything about her. Her mom was actually getting out of the hospital even though my wife didn't know that. Oh well, My wife's issues with her mom run deep as well and not going to even address that problem.

I have regained my calm and composure after this weekends events. I am going to continue my work on my marriage and me. I need to get further in DR and rethink my approach I want to take but I'm following the 37 rules from Sandi for now. If someone has other advice I'm open to at this point. I'm not as anxiety ridden and have fought my temptations to track wife or backslide as much as possible.

I discussed with my counselor today about working on my control issues and how I'm working on that. I told my counselor about that fact my wife went to a psychiatrist but told no one about it and that she was referred by her counselor. I told my counselor about what concerns about possible psychiatric problem and she didn't disagree about the signs.

I'm not trying to pin my marriage problem on a disorder but her history has shown definite signs of problems and all I can hope is that she is getting help for it. I her when she has worked through her problems and is ready to address us. I will GAL and be the best dad I can be.

What does that community think??