Cam

All I will say to add to what has been said here to you is:

Love or do not. There is no condition. There is no BUT or if

... in real love.

Real love?

Let me ask you

How would you like to be loved? Only when you are calm and peacefeul and happy and content?

Or

When you are scared and full of doubt, fear and uncertainty? When you are trying to find your way and can't. When you are so scared you RUN away?

So scared that you are incapable of seeing the needs of your spouse.

When would you most want to be loved and understood?

I am not making excuses for your W. She is running away.

So do you want to love in the same way?

Which way makes you a victim and which way is a choice by you and controlled only by you?

Love is a choice not a condition.

To love that way is the toughest lesson to learn because you may feel pathetic and weak for a while...

Until you realize that YOU control the only part of love that matters

That what you give away. Without needing what comes back.

You want to invoke miracles? Take aim at this goal for yourself.

So you say you love your W?

And she should love you too?

What if she thinks you don't love her?

Then by your definition she shouldn't want to love you right?

There is an opportunity to learn something here Cam.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am