Thanks Beatrice~ A major part of our R problems I think are because not much or very good communication. H is really bad. Even admits to it. I am wondering if it was okay though to say I had to continue with D unless he DOES something that could improve the sitch? rather than just talking about it and how miserable he is. I will look into that book.
If you were to take him back without SOME ACTION on his end to show that things will be better AND DIFFERENT
you will be back here within a year...
he just wants to come home and pretend it never happened AND go on like before? How does that really sound to YOU?
You know the answer. For once take the path of MORE resistance b/c in the long run, taking him back "AS IS"
is about the more certain path to more pain and loss for all. For all we know, he wants to save money and still see OW...
Hate to say that but what is different now? Oh, you filed to get money...and the only thing he says is things were fine before "he just didn't know it"???
SIGH
stay the course-it's working.
Doesn't mean you make him climb Mt Everest-be clear on that-but a modicum of ACTION ON HIS END is mandatory
or he's not serious.
Sorry, but that's my take on it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
