If that is the school he wants to get in, the he should talk to his counselors to see how to really beef up his chances, get recommendations from teachers and his counselor. We just went through exactly the same thing this time last year. My S only applied to one school, even though he got letters from all over, wanting to give him money. He got in the school he wanted. And he loves it. He was in gifted classes from the second grade, so he's a real smart kid, but he is also funny as heck. I always said he was like a young Robin Williams, goofy as can be. So, with a perfect GPA, high SAT scores, bright future as a lawyer, if he had wanted to go into acting, I would have totally supported it, and helped him find a way to make it happen. But, one agreement we always had, college comes first. And, since his school's performing arts dept. is the best in the state, he wins again, if he wants to go into that instead, or even minor in it.
My H's cousin's D wanted to go to the school that 25yrs loves, haha, but everyone on that side of the family pooh poohed her dream, I told her if that's really what she wanted, she would find a way to make it happen. She did, and graduated and now works for CNN.
My sister always picks at my H's choice of cities to work for as a policeman, but what is funny is that her own S has decided to follow in his uncle's footsteps, and work for the same city.
I say all this to tell you to not only just accept his choice, but to love it, too, and to wholeheartedly enter into it, and do all within your power to make it happen for him. You want above all for his happiness as a grown up man, who doesn't have to regret his life's work.
I know you are feeling down, and don't want to attend a group meeting with other separated people. I don't think I would, either. It may be different with only one or two others, if you knew any other ladies who have gotten separated, probably ones you know from church or school. If you are worried about losing your house, then get the conversation going with your H. I know you keep saying IF they are planning a future together; well they are living it as though there was no rysmom. They may be as happy as clams. I guess, since you make no real moves any way at all, it could go on this way for twenty years more. What are you going to do in three or five or ten years? If you would at least get the ball rolling on having contact with him. What are you afraid of? What is the worst that could happen if you do begin to try to see and speak to him more? What's the worst that could happen if you let things continue as they are now? You said you had health problems that prevent you from working a full time job. How serious are they? You may have to get a full time job one day, just to prepare for your retirement. You at least need to pay into Social Security if you are counting on that. And for it to take until Fall 2012 to get to take the class you want is really strange. Can't you take that course elsewhere, and transfer the credits over? May I ask how you spend your days? do you still work part time? How did your Algebra class go?
