forgiving doesn't equal forgetting

Cori and I argue
he does dumb things
I do dumb things
we forgive eachother on a daily basis

that doesn't mean I have forgotten them

it means I understand that he does not want to hurt me with those actions
(he may have at the time...no one is perfect...but that moment is gone)

holding on to that pain does not hurt him anymore
it only hurts me

so I forgive

not just for him

mostly for me

holding onto those feelings of hurt and anger takes a lot of energy

energy that I would rather spend on other things

he is the same

when my ex cheated on me, I forgave him for cheating but I did not forget it
those memories and feelings were then for me to handle in my way


you forgive for you
for moving on
for each other
for your marriage
for your daughter

it doesn't mean you ever forget

the memory fades over time but can sneak up on you sometimes
how you deal with that memory is the measure of you as a person