Have you read the book "Journey from Abandonment to Healing"? It really helped me face my hurt, anger, fear, etc and start the detachment process. I think it would be worth your time to check it out. Detaching doesn't come natural or easy. It took me hitting rock bottom to finally start the process. Once you do start the process and see how it's positively changing your life, it will come more naturally to you. Remember...detaching doesn't mean you stop loving or caring for your husband. It simply means that you accept that your husband isn't his normal self right now, so therefore you refuse to let his words and actions affect your words, actions and thoughts. It's designed to protect you.
I also suggest you really work on establishing and following through with your personal goals. Take your H out of the equation right now...what can you do in your life to make RSGG happier? How can you improve...not to win back your H's affections, but for YOU?
I may be wrong, but it appears that your H is still invested in your marriage; he hasn't completely checked out just yet. So take this time to practice patience, work on detachment and focus on your goals. Come here to vent rather than opening your mouth (that took a lot of work on my part, and I finally accomplished it!). You are an intelligent, fun, confident woman and a FIGHTER...you can do this!
