H was talking about finding a mc in CA once we move me there. Within a 10 minute time period this is what he told me:
1. It's taking a lot for me to be here, I want to be free. 2. I'm done, don't you understand?
and after I excused myself from the room to go to the bathroom (an excuse) he came up to me about 5 minutes later to tell me...
3. I love you... I don't mean to hurt you 4. I don't want to lose you 5. I believe our marriage can be saved, if I didn't believe this I would have left
So within a 10 min time period... he goes from "I'm done" to "I don't want to lose you and I think our marriage can be saved".
This is how crazy it has been. I can't respond to it, but nod my head in agreement with him.
I guess this is why I wonder if this is normal...because it was so extreme yesterday.
He himself continues to tell me how mixed up he is...so he knows he has something going on. But he's blaming me, and saying he's miserable with me and has no control over his life.
BUT if I tell him... "There's no locks on the inside of these doors, you are free...." He just sits there looking down...gets quiet and stops talking about.
I offer him his freedom, he does not take it.... I don't know what to do.
He told me "I'm trapped here, I'm trapped because I can't leave you and our daughter".
What can I do to help him? I pray every day for God to guide my steps so that I am doing the right things, saying the right things.
