One current poster is Spirit, I really enjoy his posts.
A former poster was AmyC....
Are you asking if I think your wife is MLC ?
Cause I'm not sure I am the right person to answer that one Sammy.
If it looks, smells, and tastes like MLC, then it probably is.
She certainly spews enough venom toward you. Most of it appears to be projection on her part, rewriting history....etc
As far as the rest ?
She seems to be reaching out once again, to what she once knew to be solid in her life. Testing the waters, to see who is "on her side" Pretty much following the MLC script there...
Many of them go through this to see what pieces of their "new" life can fit into the old life. But I think a lot of that , also, is to see what is going on with the LBS too.
Many of them reach out to old friends to see what they know or don't know. Sometimes they find that the old friends, that YOU stay in touch with, are used as a contact point, to check on you, to see what is going on in your life without "giving you false hope" , by talking to you directly.
The confusion that surrounds MLC is like nothing we could ever imagine. It is when rational becomes irrational, and irrational becomes rational.
There is a quest to sort out what they think their lives "should" look like at a certain stage, and that the one constant in their life, has turned into the reason they are unhappy. The truly believe that WE , because we have been so much a part of their life, are the reason they are miserable
Is it ? I think we can be a part of that...although it astounds me that we...have that much power over another human, capable of free will, yet choosing to not initiate that free will.
What you will find, and most here have found...
Is that when you stay true to you, and SHOW that you have heard, and are different in how you paint your picture to her....
That it angers her...GREATLY....
What you have noticed is, that she will try to push any button that she can on you, to manipulate you into being "that" person...
The one she needs you to be , in order to justify the "why" she had to leave you....
And when you are not that person, she is like a hungry carnivore, stuck in the produce department at Sweet Bay...
The best description of MLC I had, was from a former MLCer....
She told me that she had a baby, a beautiful baby boy, went to sleep, and when she awoke, he was Four years old.....
She looks at pictures from that time, and doesn't remember being there, even though she is in the picture.....
MLC or not Sammy.....
Don't cancel the rest of your tour, just because DLR is whacked out right now.....
OM is an idiot, and NOT the reason for this happening...
Smile when they are together, knowing that HE is the one who gets to be around her, when she is like this....not you.
Not focusing on her or anything, but it would appear that they may be fizzling out a bit, and looking toward you, to be the reason they are fizzling.
