Had a visit with IC today, went pretty well. One of the things he mentioned to me is that W doesn't seem to see any value in what I may have brought into the relationship. Without me being a SAHD, she wouldn't have been able to take her job and travel, etc. She doesn't see the sacrifices I've made. Don't really feel like typing out the rest, I can explain later if necessary.
All of this may be true, but I told him I really don't see how it would make any difference. One thing he did say which I may try and phrase at some point, especially if she brings up legal stuff, is that while I've truly tried to (with some success according to S) understand what she went through the past few years, she doesn't seem to have tried to understand what my life was like during that same time. He suggested that I simply ask her if she has tried to understand.
The idea is intriguing. While I'm fairly certain she hasn't, which is why she thinks I had been using her to mooch and "live the high-life", I don't know for certain. She may not have even thought of trying to understand things from my point of view. She has never asked me though.
So I'm thinking of asking something along the lines of, "are you interested in understanding what life was like for me for the past 5 years?" This way, if she says no, it's not open-ended or pursuing. If she says yes, I can be concise, and then answer questions if she has them.
However, I'm not sure if this would be productive or not.
