Wife no longer in love with me - Part 4

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OK thanks Bond, I get it. (tried not to use "I" there but couldn't help it

I don't think I'm better than her. It was probably one of my faults that I was at times too cocky and arrogant, I did think I was better than some people. I am very successful in work and I got promoted very quickly and quite senior and it went to my head...I was a d*ck at times. I now look around and realise I am no better than anyone, I am probably worse off and I am extremely humbled and embarassed at where I am at and how I was at times. The only reason I may come off sounding better than my W is that I have more of a fight instinct than her and I don't understand her, and maybe never will. But its not that I think I'm better, its more a frustration.

I really don't know what my W's needs are at the moment, other than to have no contact and move on and put our marriage behind her. I know what her needs were now and why she has reacted this way: I wasn't loving enough, I wasn't appreciative enough, the M wasn't even enough, it was all about me, I didn't tell her she was beautiful etc etc - there's heaps of them.
As for now, I don't know, so I don't know how I can address anything.
She doesn't trust me at all, I have done a lot wrong since she left, a lot out of desperation and anxiety. I have shown her a side of me that I didn't even know existed, a panicked state that was very messed up. As for now, I am more confident and calm around her until she gets sad or says something and then I chase.
As far as I know, all she wants is space to be left alone and then split our assets and divorce. she won't tell me anything else anymore.
Having no kids gives us no reason to interact, and thats what is so hard.