W is moving out.....life goes on...

[In_Shock]

Not much to really update, but a little bit. As many of us are prone to 'mind reading' our WAS, I find it helps to run things by you guys instead of relying on my own interpretations of events.

W and S returned home from trip on Saturday night. I was SO happy to see S. He was ecstatic to be home, to see me and the dogs! I may have been a little too strong with the ILY or glad u guys are back to W - but oh well. Stark, weak humanity seeps in sometimes.... plus i have the frequently aforementioned problem of talking to damn much~!!

So W sleeps on the couch - as usual for the past couple of weeks or so. Sunday comes. She goes to see OW as usual.... As usual I ignore it, never mention it, never acknowledge where she is, etc... W was visibly upset from her trip - then after her -- whatever---- with OW she and I go out to dinner. (kind of weird when i put it that way, but that is what we do....) W ends up becoming very emotional on the way to dinner. She had some upsetting family things to deal with on the trip, and she cried, talked a lot to me about how she feels regarding the family things, etc...

My interpretation is that she is still emotionally connected to me -- not 'done' as she says - or she wouldn't share so much with me. Deep things, etc... I don't know, but it felt like we were connecting. *(sidebar-- one of her complaints is that I'm not in touch with my emotions...so why talk to me about painful things and get emotional comfort?) Anyway, later on in the night I did talk too much. (wow, was this just yesterday?) asking more questions about the family stuff instead of letting her come to me.

This am I said something about sorry I was talking too much or whatever?? She said she feels like I don't know when to stop with a good convo. She said it was like I was trying to pull more out of her later in the night, and she wasn't ready to talk about those things/deal with them.

I got it. That makes sense. In my mind I was trying to help.... U know, letting her talk---- but in reality i was 'forcing' her to face things she didn't want to face. Understood.

I'm hoping the emotional connection she must have felt with me earlier in the night wasn't negated too much by the later (as she said..) 'trying too hard'.