Wife no longer in love with me - Part 4

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Bottom line: Do you love her and want to stay married to her? If not, then stop complaining about missing her. It's what you want right?

If not, then you have to start being more patient and understanding. You've only been in this for 2 and a half months. Some have been at it for years.

And let's face it, its not realistic to think that your next relationship is going to be perfect either. If you haven't learned what made your relationship fail (you say you do, but you haven't changed), it will fail again.

Thanks Bond, they are all good points. In a way I feel I need to focus on myself as it has all been about her, so I need to look after myself and if that's moving on and giving up then that may be the answer.

Do I love her? Yes I still do....BUT....I don't want to. I don't want to love someone who doesn't love me. It's humiliating and sad. I want to stay married, but it would take a miracle to do so.....as she says a lot has happened between us over the last few months. I know that with work I can forgive her and we could be stronger from this, but she doesn't. She feels that if this is happening now in our M, then theres no way we can continue and bring kids into it in the future, so she has to get out now.

I have learnt a lot why this M failed. A lot about myself and my W too. My IC has been very good at this, but it frustrates me because I still take a lot of the blame, where she doesn't.
I feel like I have wasted 8 yrs of my life and I am struggling so much because I was one of the first to get married out of my friends, and now they're all having kids, loving life and happy......and I am the only one who is single and may never have that.