Yeah, who cares if the neighbors see you playing basketball? Maybe one or two of them will join you. It's good exercise.
Well, I am sure Fordham isn't the only college choice for your S. What did you say he was thinking of majoring in?
Are you working, now, rysmom? Or are you in school full time? Have you decided whether or not to engage your H in any conversation or activities, so you can get the line of communication opened with him? I know you are scared, but sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and jump into it. One day you may not have the chance. Maybe make a list of baby steps you can make. Then do them one at a time. I know you are standing for your M. I did, too. I prayed every day for God to touch my H's heart because he was determined to leave. In the meantime, I changed the way I spoke and acted to him. I stopped being so defensive when he critiqued the way I did things. I quit criticizing his way of doing things. I let him tell me why he now like something he didn't before. If he had grown a biker beard (his job wouldn't have let him, thank goodness), gotten tattoos or started listening to heavy metal,(I actually like some heavy metal) so what? It's still H under all the crazy new stuff. He saw these changes, and responded to them. I feel we are closer now than before his MLC. I hope we are completely done with it, and I think so. With you, your H has no way of ever even seeing any changes in you, so how can you show them to him if you rarely have contact with him?
Well, time to go fix dinner. Have a nice evening, rysmom
It's good exercise.