"And he still hasn't told me he loves me. I guess one could argue that he has in other "love langauges" by doing actions that he knows are important to me. But he knows that words are important to me too."
i'm guessing that he feels this would be pressure. as everyone around here will tell you, putting that kind of pressure on someone is a sure way to drive them away.
had you ever said you dont know if you can trust his words?
"actions not words" "words are cheap"
you don't know what type of advice he is getting. for all you know he's one of the other posters on here.
but seriously, its about you still. you'll need to create new memories to drown out the bad. you'll need to figure out how to forgive.
and i have no advice for that, i couldnt do it.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".