Wife no longer in love with me - Part 4

[MrBond]

"It is the realisation that this is now the end and there's no going back."

Actually it's because you've been pushing it. Not because of her.

"I have tried some DBing techniques but to be honest, she is not a normal person in her reactions"

Read EVERYONE else's thread. Their WAS's all act the same. So don't say that your W was the exception which is why your DBing didn't work. You never really started DB-ing. It takes a lot of patience and understanding. Both of which you weren't willing to give. You made it mostly about yourself. Well, you weren't the one who had problems with the relationship. It was her. And you never gave her a chance to figure things out.

"Nothing works with her.....she would rather pretend I don't exist and we didn't spend 8 yrs together."

Again, this happens in all of our sitches. Get over it. She's not "pretending" she just doesn't want to deal with your whining any more.

"but this is how she deals with difficulties."

Nope she's just reacting to how you're acting. Think about it.

"I can't believe my life has ended up like this.
Sorry for the emotional outburst.....having a tough day and just missing my W more and more every day."
"i was miserable hanging out with heaps of couples."
"I dont believe here."
"I stupidly talked R and asked her if this is what she wants still......as it seems such a waste."

All examples of how you've made it all about you.

Bottom line: Do you love her and want to stay married to her? If not, then stop complaining about missing her. It's what you want right?

If not, then you have to start being more patient and understanding. You've only been in this for 2 and a half months. Some have been at it for years.

And let's face it, its not realistic to think that your next relationship is going to be perfect either. If you haven't learned what made your relationship fail (you say you do, but you haven't changed), it will fail again.